Over the last couple of days I have been following a story about a person who committed suicide. It’s sad that this person got to the point for him the only option was suicide. Some background: this person was a successful sports person, was in jail for some violent crimes, was a dad, a son … More Suicide, It does not make sense.
As I read the posts of Orlando, my heart is heavy. As I read the news I am shocked at the senseless talk, idiotic quotes that people are saying. I will not repeat any of these. As a gay man I am sad for the deaths of innocent people. Some may have been gay, and … More No more voices, no more words.
Elitist is another word for “snob.” If you Live in the best neighbourhood, wear only the finest silk suits, and hang around only with other Similar judgements assholes , then you’re an elitist. A fairly recent addition to the English language, the noun elitist, came about from a mix of elite + ist in 1950. … More Elitist Ass
We read of violence in relationships, usually women and children being beaten, violated, or worse killed. Same-sex realtionships are not except from this. In fact we too silent on this. Woman to are amazed to admit they were attached by another woman, men are taught to be strong and be silent. Gay men can be … More Same-Sex Domestic violence is silence.
I was brought up to be very independent. One trait that I have, is that I am very strong willed, this can be interpreted as been stubborn or arrogant. I am not arrogant, but I have found that I am perceived this way. What gets me into trouble is that I sometimes express my viewpoint, … More Think it don’t say it.
I have been thinking about doing this post for awhile now. So what would I have told a younger Ivan. Well I think I would have said find yourself, and don’t give in to bullies or society. Be who you are meant to be. It’s A okay to be gay. Yes I battled with accepting … More Letter to my younger self
So you may or may not have read about Alec Baldwins twitter rant. It unfortunately was homophobic or hate speech. Now is twitter the correct place to rant and rave, and then to public attach someone. The undertones or blatant reference to gay people is not for twitter Mr Baldwin. Then to top off it … More The way I see it tweet to twitter or just a twit.
So I try to keep my blog posting fun, lively, and about my life. However today I want to post something of a more sober subject: racism. Yesterday I received a copy of an email that was send to one of my staff. It was from an outside client. It was blatantly racist. It personally … More How far have we come……
I have mixed feelings about Pride. I am proud of my gayness every day I walk out my front door and into the world. I love my identity. Why should I need a weekend to celebrate that? Are the other 51 weekends full of shame? I feel it’s great all the LGBT community members come … More My thoughts on Pride
So I am not that old. I am still in my thirties, late thirties. Just past mid thirties, I am actually 38. Yes I said my age. And I am proud of my age. With age I get calmer and wiser in a good way. I don’t mean I am a wise know it all … More Was I this arrogant when I was young….