So let me explain how I got to wanting to write this. I woke up just after 3:30am on Saturday morning, our one cat woke me as she decided it was play time. So I went and sat in the TV lounge so I did not wake William and read. Last night I took a sleeping pill and it has the reverse effect, I was wide awake so I read again until about 4:am this morning. . I have been reading lots of blogs and also some of my other favourite news, entertainment, how-to, etc sites.
For the record, I am a gay man, 37, and have been in a relationship for 14 years now. (Monogamous) My partner William is 34, and we are not married, but a are legally partners, spouses and all those legal contracts are signed and sealed. William is a sober alcoholic of 9 years and we did meet online. Our relationship has not always been an easy road, but that is true of ALL relationships.
Given my age, and circumstances I am not familiar with any of these dating apps. I do not use them or profess to be a relationship expert, all I can say after reading people’s stories, dating today is tough. Got me thinking if with any app, we changing society in general, well a huge part of the population use an app in some form. UBER, online banking, Facebook, Twitter, email, find your friends, locate your iPhone, boarding passes for travel. Our lives have changed dramatically in the last 5-10 years. All thanks to smart phone, tablets, apps need I go on.
now with online dating apps, is this not just an app so people can get sex, without those awkward first dates. And then the need for second dates is actually redundant. Or with some match direct access to dating we failing commitments and challenges in forming relationships with others. I am taking specifically about the Gay dating world. They way I see it, I would be incredible awkward if I was single today. As a gay man these are my view on these apps, gay and straight.
Are apps not just for hookups!
Are apps taking away our social skills or talking, and giving us skills in texting, sexting!
Are apps are for longevity of ones immediate sexual needs, or for finding friends, lovers, partners for the long haul!
Are apps not candy coating life, you cannot swipe to the next part of your life, you have to be present for the good, bad, boring and the highs and lows. Life is a 24/7 app!
Are apps not cutting the crap of dating to a more real answer. You don’t waste time on people you know you have no future with.
Are apps not a sex test, you can’t check out compatibility and the “performance” up front. No bullshit here. Let’s be frank here, sex does play an important part in any intimate relationship. So why not be open honest and upfront from the start.
Are apps just making me feel older!!!