There is a gay beauty culture that tells us we’ll never look good enough (and this messes with our self-esteem).
Now this may sound very anti-gay, well it’s not. The way I see it, it’s actully saying something that we hate to admit is true in part of the whole gay culture with our people. Yes in your youth we all can be slightly obsessed with our looks. It’s about part of the path of discovery who we all are. However I must be honest that my experience in the gay culture of clubs, bars, pubs and other social interaction, I did feel I was being judged and did not make the A team.
I am not the 6 foot plus stud, I am short legged ( that phrase is from one of my favorite bloggers), so I am not always in eye contact with others. We cannot all be those tall dark handsome stereotypes. So if I put on some weight it shows double. And yes I did feel I was not part of the in crowd. Maybe too much, maybe I overthought this all. And yes I did become very self conscious, still am.
The only difference now is that I am so much more comfortable with who I am. What I look like, my imperfections, and my good qualities that may not always be visual. Yes visual is how we judge people, and yes we do need to be well groomed and take care of ourselfs. But don’t be fooled that we must all look like the models, the billboard men, we not all the same.
Looks count, but longevity it’s a whole new journey. Be who you are not who you think you are not.