I have a couple of gay men who work were I do. They vary in age from early to 20’s to late 40’s I guess.
I was chatting to one guy, he is single and desperate! He wants a relationship, to be a part of a couple, however is his concept and believes on what this relationship must be that got me thinking. He is looking for looks, the body, the complete exterior of a person. He is so adamant on the NO’s of what he does not want that I wonder if he is distancing himself from any relationship.
He meet someone the other day who I believe was a good person, however as this person is in a better financial position and earns more cash it was a big deal breaker. The looks can fade, the body can get older, but what makes a true person is constant. Seems that I have been out of the dating world too long.
So back to Mr single looking, All I can do is observe and listen. To me he is no longer lonely but hollow inside. May sound harsh but that’s how I see it. William works with a guy we though we would introduce Mr single too. William very quickly realized this was not going to work either, Mr single will not date anybody older. It’s good to know what you want however as a gay man I think we should stop judging and discrimination our own “tribe”.
For me yes it great look as at good looking man. That same man may snore at night, he may also be a total arrogant ass. What I like in a person is manners, character. To this day William always treats me with respect, thanks me when I have made him coffee, etc etc. that tells me more about a person than anything else. William can also be moody and difficult as I am as well. We both have changed in the last 11 plus years, but I still think William has a great bum, and an even better mind.
So Mr single, I hope you meet someone, someday, that you not all cynical and twisted inside. The way you are today is not a very pleasant person. Ivan.